We realized the returning gearhead in me was getting a bit too excited about modding the 2016. So I am going to buy myself a 3rd gen 4runner! The TRDP will still be lifted 2" on 33s, but it likely won't see anything beyond sliders.
Now I can have my cake (have a vehicle with near-stock reliability and classy aesthetics) and eat it too (the 3rd gen with full armor, 4.56s or possibly 4.88s, locker(s), and, of course, a winch)!
On overland trips to more aggressive places, we will now plan to convoy in both vehicles, which will cut down a lot on the risks we have discussed. There will also be times we just take the 3rd gen by itself, which should be both a bit more capable but also a little less whiney about scratches and such haha. Of course, we will still have the hi-lift as an alternate winching option should we get the TRDP stuck somewhere by itself, but this new line of options really makes that less and less likely (especially since she will usually be driving the 2016, and won't be enticed into the "hey, skeeter, watch this!" kinds of messes that had always plagued me).
Plus, on our last offroad camping trip, we are the only ones in our group of friends with a vehicle capable of getting to the site we used. So, we ended up with 6 adults and 5 dogs packed into the 4runner. Obviously, the solution to that is to simply buy another 4runner...right? Plus, it will be an excuse to take more friends into the outdoors :D .
Win - win - win.....win?