I really got mixed up between wants and needs and they got swapped around due to peer pressure actually.
I started our wheeling with a Bronco II with 31's and I was having a blast my "Adventure Rig" did what I wanted I got into the woods down some cut lines and hydro lines and then camped out of the way AWESOME! Made some friends who were hardcore rock crawlers, well, now I am beefing up and swapping out axles eventually on my third Bronco II I had 33's and a V8 and its was a beast offroad. I couldnt drive it very far due to fuel, not having enough lol. The I went to a XJ and I built custom axles custom everything (joys of being a millwright I think I can build most of what I want and I have been proven wrong on occasion). My wife at the time wanted no part of this life. Well my second wife loves being in the woods so we started camping way more with her kids, and I began to think differently.
Big tents portable kitchens eventually the XJ was parked and a crew cab sierra 1500 was the go to rig mild lift all is good.
Now we are getting older had a bad summer tenting and I hurt my back and knees.
So me and the missus decide on a small camper and now I recently had to retire the GMC and sell the XJ
My list of stuff to do to the new rig is now dictated by what we tow and how far we intend to travel with the present set up
And honestly I really love this setup the best
where I am going with this is where a few others have gone. Do what makes you happy, don't put yourself in the poor house building the ultimate "overlander" unless thats what floats your boat or you can still find the resources to enjoy it.
I found for myself and my family what I have now, in my early 50's, is the best I have had and my back bothers me less I can weather most storms easily I just cant get to "that spot" now we hike to it.
The purpose of all this is to get out and enjoy nature and breathe not who has the baddest rig with the most whiz bang gadgets
Yeah, this pretty much is how we're rolling. We go out, use what we have, and adjust from there.
For example, on the first trip with the family, we took my 4 person coleman tent. While it worked for 2 adults, and a 3 year old, it was TIGHT. My wife would prefer to be able to stand up to get dressed (and I would as well), so we're going to bump up to the 6 person coleman instant tent. This will solve both the space problem, and the height problem.
We also decided that we need a larger cooking table, and better storage in the Xterra. I'm thinking these will BOTH be solved by building a drawer system for the back of the X, with either a table that is incorporated into the top of one of the drawers, or that slides out from the bottom. We WANT some warmer sleeping bags, and better sleeping pads, but for warmer weather trips, what we currently have will work just fine for the time being.
Another example is that both my wife and I have sleep apnea, which means we need to bring our cpaps. I used a 12v battery pack for myself, that would last me a couple of days, but it could only power one machine. I ended up buying a lithium power pack to be able to power the machines. I spent a bit more for the 540Wh pack, which will power both machines for 3 nights before getting low enough to require a charge. I also plan on using it to charge camera batteries, cell phones, and keep my daughter's tablet charged at camp.
I'm mentioning all of this to give you some insight into my thought process.