Phew! Let's just say forums never disappoint... :-)
@grubworm, you raise an excellent point about needing to practice my negotiation skills while being tied up - I definitely think I need to put in a couple more years of training... just in case... :-)
Ha! Glad to see you have a working sense of humor...generally shows a good sign of intelligence.
I've spent nearly half of my life underwater, either on submarines or hard hat diving where any moment can be a life threatening situation. I've had numerous near-death experiences where I'm trapped and running out of air and knowing that I just have a few minutes of life left. Surprising what goes thru a person's head at times like that. Those experiences have done a few things for me:
1) made me develop a bizarre sense of humor
2) shown me there is really isn't much in life any of us have total control over
3) shown me that life is precious and very unpredictable
So with that, my bizarre sense of humor kicked in and I did find it a bit humorous hearing you talk about having control, especially while being tied up. I do not doubt that you possess the intelligence and discipline to remain calm during a horrible event like that and I'm sure your demeanor at the time did help and deescalate the situation. HOWEVER...you are dealing with people, which are the most dangerous animal of all because they are so unpredictable and not always responsive to logic and reason. You do not have control over people like that, you can only hope to put them in a situation where they are now the one with something to lose...
Obviously I made it thru my life threatening experiences as did you. What worked for us during those times are definitely not a guarantee to work for others in similar situations. I certainly would not advocate "logic and reason" as a fail safe method of dealing with people, especially people who have no regard for you or your life. And the illusion of having "control" in a situation like that is more of an illusion than a reality. If the life of my wife or kids is involved, I am certainly going with the option that will yield the greatest success...and that is not my eloquent use of speech.
I appreciate your position and see where it does indeed have merit, but having a military background, I have seen first hand that some people only respond to violence. As sad as that may be it, it is the way of the world. There are quite a few people capable of coming up to you and killing you for the contents of your wallet. The only way to stop them is by showing them that they might die. They obviously do not mind taking your life for $100, but they are not willing to risk THEIR life for it. Most times just showing a gun is enough to convey that message. Also, it not always about people wanting to steal from you, I see a lot of road rage and quite a few instances where extreme violence is being deployed merely because someone was cut off in traffic.
So...when I carry a gun, it is not for the desire to hurt, but rather to send the message of: "I value my life. Do you value yours?"
Again, I appreciate your position as well as I do your understanding my sense of humor. Quite a few people get me and some find me to be offensive...which is great because that is how I weed out non-hackers.
Peace to you and your family and safe travels!