@ZombieCat Well, that brings us to a few points.
1. Which is more important to you, your wife's satisfaction or a lighter load?
2. Do you really want to be out on a trip with an unhappy woman?
3. Women tend to require more equipment in their daily routines (which is why they generally carry a bag) than us dudes. Their "light" is by default heavier than ours.
4. Women can't stand while pissing.
5. Imagine living your same life, but being unable to stand while pissing.
6. Don't actually imagine that, but it does give a glimpse of the inconvenience of existing as a woman.
7. Women are biologically different from dudes. They don't take the bashing and thrashing of road trips as well and they are discomforted more easily.
8. Discomfort leads to complaints.
9. Repeat from step 2.
Now that I’ve stopped laughing…
1. To begin, I AM a woman. I usually attempt to make my travel companions of either sex comfortable, up to a point.
2. If a travel companion isn’t realistic about or comfortable with the conditions of the trip, they can stay home.
3. Not true. I used to travel for work and often brought much less than the guys. Yes, we may need a small amount of feminine hygiene products (up to a certain age), but that’s only a few ounces. Due to your likely larger physical size, your clothing and footwear will weigh more than mine.
4. Yes, we can. There are numerous female urination devices, such as the pStyle. We can also squat and then use a water bottle bidet/Kula cloth to clean up and there’s no trash to carry out. Regardless, you’ll likely bring some type of toilet system to properly dispose of solid waste, which you both can use sitting down. Or you can dig a cat hole and squat for that, too.
5. See #4
6. LOL - life as a woman is great! Any “inconveniences” can easily be overcome. At least we don’t have the inconvenience of…ahem…constantly readjusting our underwear to avoid chafing.
7. Of course we’re biologically different. Although we are typically physically smaller, there’s no scientific evidence that we can’t handle driving a rough, bumpy road as well as any man. Women have been psychologically and socially conditioned to believe we are “the weaker sex.” I call BS on that! We also live longer - 79 years versus 73 for men, according to the CDC.
8. This is true of anyone. Whiners can stay home. Period.
9. Packing appropriately for a trip is a learned skill and should evolve over time. Work together with your partner to make an agreed upon list of what to bring, broken down into categories such as gear, kitchen, sleeping, toiletries, clothing, etc. Modify for climate, length of travel and anticipated activities. Allow a few lightweight, non-bulky “luxury” items for each person to enhance comfort and enjoyment.
Solo travel is always an option, even if you’re married. I know several men whose wives are not into roughing it. The compromise is to take their wives on separate, more traditional vacations they can enjoy as a couple.
Before you generalize women as weak, read about Emma “Grandma” Gatewood, the first female solo thru hiker of the Appalachian Trail. With no training, a pair of Keds and a canvas sack, she walked the entire trail in 1955. She was 67 years old. She hiked it two more times, making her the first person (male or female) to do so. Heather “Anish” Anderson held unsupported FKT’s for both the Appalachian and Pacific Crest Trails, beating the top male endurance hikers. Women can overcome and excel in the face of adversity. Overlanding is a piece of cake.