Good info there.
Ive done quite a bit of rock crawling over the years. I know your not going to do that but, here's a little more insight. Ill just put down basics.
My 80 cj7, 33" mud terrains, V8 eng, stock corp rear, dana 30 front, detroit lockers. up graded axle shafts. Wheeled it hard, eventually bent the rear axle and broke a few u joints. 04 tj, dana 44's molly axles, sleeved housings, arb's, 35's and now 37's. Didn't beat it as hard but its a lot heavier. Broke a u joint.
Bottom line is, both vehicles would be over kill for what you want to do and had similar axle mod's to what you originally posted. Except for the V8, the cj, is pretty close to your rig's specs in the way of weight and axle.
My third vehicle was a 91 Cherokee with a small lift and 32's. All stock. bought it with 75k and sold it with 190k. This was my daily driver and desert exploring rig. No lockers, no axle upgrades, no winch or heavy bumpers. 2 flat tires over the 7 years I owned it. Drove dirt roads, sand wash's mild snow and mud and if a small rock section was in the way, drove over that.
What you should be looking at is your total vehicle weight and whether or not your going to tow. Most people lift their vehicle's, put a bunch of money into gears and lockers but, overlook what their causing. Heat. You said you wanted to run 33's and an ARB or two. Upgrade your axle shafts (i prefer chrome moly), new u-joints and consider 4.56-4.88 gears. (Search out gear ratio calculators.) You need to keep the vehicle in the proper RPM range. With the extra weight and tire size you need to bring the RPM a little higher otherwise you creating extra heat and load on engine and transmission.
Now that you dropped a couple thousand on your axles, hows your trans? I'm assuming your running an automatic. If its in good shape put a nice big trans cooler on and service it. How old is your cooling system? Make sure that's in good shape too. The trans and eng cooling systems are where I've watched most people have issues. If you do the axles correctly, with good parts, you wont break anything. The only mod's my Cherokee had was a nice trans cooler, trans temp gauge and better radiator. With the 4.10's and 32's it did bog a bit on hills. If I kept it i would have re geared it.
It sounds like your on your way to a nice build any way you choose to do it.
Scott