Thanks for sharing your experience
@Tommys -- that seems like an unfortunate mistake that is easy to make, so hopefully many will learn from it. Main thing is I'm glad you and your family are OK and have a story to tell out of the experience.
On a related note, on our trip this summer we purchased new bear spray as our old stuff was flirting with it's approved shelf life. We decided to use our old bear spray to practice with it, so we'd be more comfortable and familiar in an emergency. We learned two things:
1) It can be hard to translate the "range" on the can into real world environments. We found that essentially, the bear has to be violating Social Distancing protocols if you're gonna hit 'em with a spray (at least the cans we had). So that means the bar for spraying an angry bear is at the same range as my bar for saying "Excuse me sir, can you give me a bit more space" in the grocery store line at the outset of the pandemic.
That's not very far away! But it's good to know, because in a panic your liable to shoot your spray way, way too early in a real situation.
2) The contents of the spray is typically a very hot capsaicin substance suspended in oil. Because of this, hand washing with regular soap and water might not do a good enough job getting it off. You have to use Dawn dish soap (i.e. something that cuts grease) or some other solvent to truly get this stuff off your hands, and even if you don't spray yourself, odds are it will dribble a bit from the nozzle and you might get some on you. If you don't use dish soap, that's OK because your body has a natural alarm that it will trigger to let you know you still have bear spray on your hands. The alarm typically goes off on your next bathroom trip and it lasts a long time. That's all the details I'll provide on my experience, but just trust me -- use dish soap after spraying this stuff.