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UgotWheelz
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Edited: I got on a late night rant so edited for clarity.
I have debating posting this to public forums for about 18 months now but since this consumes all aspects of my life I think it is now time. A synopsis of the situation; Back around late 2008 I was planning and preparing for a 3+ year full time Overlanding adventure. My parent started forgetting conversations, becoming agitated, and her personality started to change. I demanded her family doctor do testing for ALZ and told the doctors this was not right I was sure it was ALZ without any result or help. In 2015 I demanded her doctor test her for EO ALZ and refused to leave his office till we got a referral. All the tests confirmed she had ALZ, the doctor said she would not live more than 1 year! Her family went about their lives while I was left to put my plans and life on hold to take care of her. Fast Forward to Dec 2020 and I am still the ONLY full time 24/7 caregiver for her. She hasn't recognized me since my last girlfriend who helped with night duty moved out in Nov 2016 due to behavioral issues. She has no grasp on reality at all, cannot take care of herself in anyway. She knows when she has to use the restroom but needs assistance and is now in Depends. She is often agitated, rude, violent, doesn't sleep, wanders, and refuses to take medicine, or use the bathroom.
I am trying to figure out how to have a life, if I leave the situation and she goes into a facility we loose the house, I leave with zero income, substantial debt from taking care of her and her property, and no savings. I have already lost two paid for fully tuned performance cars, an adventure based based business, and have been selling off toys, major shop tools, gear, and equipment to stay in the home. Suggestions if you have any experience with similar, please?
I have debating posting this to public forums for about 18 months now but since this consumes all aspects of my life I think it is now time. A synopsis of the situation; Back around late 2008 I was planning and preparing for a 3+ year full time Overlanding adventure. My parent started forgetting conversations, becoming agitated, and her personality started to change. I demanded her family doctor do testing for ALZ and told the doctors this was not right I was sure it was ALZ without any result or help. In 2015 I demanded her doctor test her for EO ALZ and refused to leave his office till we got a referral. All the tests confirmed she had ALZ, the doctor said she would not live more than 1 year! Her family went about their lives while I was left to put my plans and life on hold to take care of her. Fast Forward to Dec 2020 and I am still the ONLY full time 24/7 caregiver for her. She hasn't recognized me since my last girlfriend who helped with night duty moved out in Nov 2016 due to behavioral issues. She has no grasp on reality at all, cannot take care of herself in anyway. She knows when she has to use the restroom but needs assistance and is now in Depends. She is often agitated, rude, violent, doesn't sleep, wanders, and refuses to take medicine, or use the bathroom.
I am trying to figure out how to have a life, if I leave the situation and she goes into a facility we loose the house, I leave with zero income, substantial debt from taking care of her and her property, and no savings. I have already lost two paid for fully tuned performance cars, an adventure based based business, and have been selling off toys, major shop tools, gear, and equipment to stay in the home. Suggestions if you have any experience with similar, please?
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