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Overlanding with Anxiety

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How involved is she in the trip planning? She may find some comfort in planning the route / meals / pack / etc..
she actually isnt super big on the the route planning part. Shes more like "oh well you know these trails better than me so ill let you pick one i might enjoy" but she enjoys the planning as far as prepping gear, food, and things like that. even little day drive trips.
 

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Honestly, I would start with teaching her wilderness survival. Not force it down her throat, but get her started learning... This can be done in the "safety" of the back yard. Knowing she can handle things will help to alleviate her fears as she learns that the things she feared can be easily handled. This includes getting first aid and CPR certifications for both of you... learning how to start a camp fire, even learning how to forage food. In this way, she runs out of things to be afraid of, thus has fewer things to be anxious over.

Find and make some friends with other couples (or even individuals) in the area who are also interested in overlanding. You are not alone if you have friends in the vehicle behind you. so even if your vehicle broke down, she would not have to worry about being stranded alone in the middle of nowhere.

Every time a fear comes out, make a mental note of it... devise a plan to overcome the cause of it. Every time she learns that a fear can be overcome, she will have less to fear.
i actually was gonna take some on sunday to show her how to set up a tent and such, also wanted to take her back up to the mountains to teach her some basic land nav with simple landmarks to start.
 
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@ExpeditionArizona I had a random thought, based on your comment above. You might want to have take look at the Rebelle Rally info & Website. She might find it interesting or inspiring, it is a woman only off road rally. They work hard at it and need a complete skill set.

I would suggest taking a look on Youtube
 

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so took her to the mountains for the day. She felt more relaxed, hung out in the hammock a little. more exposure seems to be working better. She played around with the Gaia app on the ipad. Shes slowly learning more and more.

Just gotta find more shady areas since its warming up outside.
 

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it is interesting to note that nobody cares when a guy has anxiety.....

i have EXTREME anxiety when the wife takes my credit card on trips and disappears into overpriced souvenir shops with it. i'm left out in the truck with heart palpitations and beads of sweat dripping down my face and i'm not even offered a cold drink or cold washcloth. or the anxiety i have when there is a noise in the middle of the night and i'm sent out with a dim flashlight and a dull kitchen knife to go see what it is only to hear the camper door lock behind me as i step out into the darkness...

just saying....
 
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it is interesting to note that nobody cares when a guy has anxiety.....

i have EXTREME anxiety when the wife takes my credit card on trips and disappears into overpriced souvenir shops. i'm left out in the truck with heart palpitations and beads of sweat dripping down my face and i'm not even offered a cold drink or cold washcloth. or the anxiety i have when there is a noise in the middle of the night and i'm sent out with a dim flashlight and a dull kitchen knife to go see what it is.

just saying....
Just got to suck it up buttercup! LOL. I am not disparaging any real anxiety here.
 

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I am not disparaging any real anxiety here.
me either...
my wife has had anxiety for a long time and started taking meds for it when she was a school teacher..since there is not an actual "thing" that causes her anxiety, we joke and clown a lot and use humor to overcome it as much as possible. everyone has their own way of coping. sometimes she'll have anxiety and i'll joke about how nobody cares about anxiety i'm having, which is funny because it is true that guys generally don't get as much consideration when it comes to these type things. not disparaging and not being offensive, just pointing out the obvious with a slight sprinkle of humor thrown in.
 
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This is very true. It is a double standard.

As with most things in life, there is a flip side. We can be assertive and no one has a problem with that. When a woman is assertive she is regarded as a bit of a female dog.

Pros and cons for everything. It all balances out in the end.

Us guys don't need any sympathy anyways.
 
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