Two things I would take a close look at are...
Depending on where you go one or both of these could be an Achilles's heel. Low-speed off-roading with a CVT or a DCT will often times result in the transmission overheating in short order. Off-roading where there's a pretty constant need for power at the rear can also result in overheating part of the AWD system. Specifically, the iVTM-4 system that Honda uses. The problem with this system is that there is no traditional rear diff, power is managed by electromechanical clutches in the rear end, one for each side. Running in "Lock" mode is meant to be temporary because the clutches will overheat pretty quickly as there is always slip, the output to the rear end is always overdriven and the clutches are actuated to provide push as needed, it's not 1:1 with the front. My wife had a 2012 Honda Pilot with the iVTM-4 system, it worked great on pavement and wasn't bad on fire roads, but any time there were a challenge it would struggle. The rear never fully locks, either, even when the "Lock" button has been engaged.
For the above reasons, if you're wanting a combination of reliability and capability I would only buy a vehicle that has a proper 4WD system that mechanically locks and has a low range. Even if the terrain doesn't require 4L, if you're driving slowly up a road or hill you can still cook your trans without low range. Being able to take that load off the trans makes the experience much more relaxing and gives you a lot more control.
That's not to say the vehicles you listed aren't good, you just have to determine where you're more willing to make compromises. You live in SW OK and while the terrain there may be flat (I currently live in east central IL so I know flat) you're just a day's drive from some of the best overlanding areas in the country (IMO); Colorado. We looooove going to the San Juans and exploring but I wouldn't go without proper 4WD and low range. I know people push their Subarus and other AWD vehicles hard to try and do the Alpine Loop, which isn't particularly difficult but you really do need the ability to go slowly, to say they've done it but that is not something I would recommend anyone do if they want to enjoy the experience and if they like their vehicle and want it to last.
I also get that fuel economy is a concern, especially if you're going to daily it as well. So, I'm going to toss a suggestion out there that I think would be the best all-around vehicle (and is one that we own currently so I have some experience with it); A Jeep Grand Cherokee WK2, which is 2010-2022 model years. We currently own a 2016 WK2 EcoDiesel (wife's rig) and there have been times that we've been tempted to swap vehicles (I have a 2017 GMC Canyon that I've built up for overlanding), I have more of a desire/need for an SUV now and my wife has more of a need for a truck (beekeeping). We haven't swapped yet for the simple fact that I finally have my truck dialed in for our travels and her Jeep is 100% stock except for some A/Ts on the factory 20" wheels.
In any event, the WK2 will get you a solid, proven drivetrain and if you get one with the 3.6L V6 or EcoDiesel then fuel economy will still be respectable. The 3.6L is solid and doesn't have all of the emissions annoyances of the diesel. The HEMI is great, but you'll pay for it at the pump. It'll have no problem beating a 4Runner in terms of fuel economy, too. The 3.6 WK2 should get around 20MPG compared to the 4Runner's 17MPG (stock for stock).
We also owned a 2006 Grand Cherokee with the 4.7 V8, that was also a great vehicle but the fuel economy was pretty awful.
With the Grand Cherokee you also get full-time 4WD which is great in the snow. There's also air suspension available (My wife's Jeep has it) which will allow you to raise it up off-road and get close to 11" of ground clearance (stock tires).
So, that's what I would look for. I'd think you'd be able to pick one up that's a few years old for a decent price.