i really dont care, just pointing out that we all do "judge", so might as well own it and just make sure to judge the right things. sometimes making a judgement call on a person or a situation is what keeps us alive, so judging isnt always a bad thing. if the word is bothersome, then just change it to "evaluate". i dont "judge" people, but i certainly do "evaluate" the hell out of them!
according to the write up, the girlfriend of the shooting victim said that he felt something was off. so apparently he do some judging or evaluating. he shot the woman 3 times, so he was on his game for the most part. the woman shot him once and killed him. she got off a lucky shot.
if i was in his shoes, i probably would have gotten shot, too. i'm sure i would have been hunched under the hood trying to find the problem while they got the drop on me. reading stories like this reinforces the need for us to stay vigilant, but at the same time i dont want to get to the point where i completely turn away anyone in need because i am afraid. its a messed up situation and it goes to show that evil can take on any form anywhere and at anytime...
We always tell our kids "use your best judgement" and then someone says that judging people is wrong. I disagree. Judging (like you said, evaluating a person or situation) is how we decide not to get into a car with that drunk driver friend of ours.
Its CONDEMNING that is the problem. Judge away. Change the word judge to evaluate if you like, but 10 years from now people will want to word changed again because you are attaching or detracting VALUE to a person. Someone will chicken snap over that
I sometimes stop to help people as well. I dont want to be at a point where I never help. But I judge (evaluate) the conditions before deciding to help. Even then I could be wrong some day.
This guy was armed. What if they saw his gun in his waistband while he was bent into the engine bay? They might have shot anyway.
The girl had been on the phone (video call?) With her father to help diagnose. Another lesson here (no blame, just criminology and victimology) is to STAY ON THE PHONE UNTIL YOU ARE WELL AWAY FROM THE SUSPICIOUS SITUATION.
They didn't attack during the phone call because her dad would have been a witness. You are already suspicious. Keep dad on the phone until you have already driven away. Indeed, make it a video call and record it. Say "Hi Dad, this is the lady whose car broke down" and pan the phone over to video the lady and have her say Hi. I'm guessing she would have not attacked after that, because there would have been a witness. Certainly not if the phone call/ video call remained active until the couple left.
Again, this is not casting blame to the young and decent couple. It's part Monday morning quarterback, part "playing the 'what if...' game" for so many years. Decades, really.
Unfortunately I default to being suspic5of people first, even the ones I do evaluate that I can stop for. I have stopped to help a lady or 2 in the past and said, call your husband, boyfriend, wife, significant other, go ahead. I'll talk with them and say hi and let them know I'm here helping. The people on the side of the road could be just as apprehensive.
Sorry for the long post. This just has an effect because I'm happy to have a truck and tools to help and have done so on many occasions. As I'm sure a lot of you have